My wife thinks I have a problem

[Gillman-Fan]

My Wife is 100% supportive of all my oddball interests due largely to the fact that I don't care for professional sports.

[ChattyLMS]

Soooo, maybe a support group would be nice.

How about a second TV and DVD player?

[Nicole]

I'm reminded of the old adage, "You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink."

Maybe you could find something she likes that you could meet her halfway on. If you show her you're making an effort to learn more about one of her interests, I would think she would, in turn, try to learn more about something you like.

And if that doesn't work, well... you'll just have to try to sneak some monster-related movies and reading material into her stuff wherever you can and hope for the best.

[Paul L]

How about a second TV and DVD player?

If we decide to cohabitate, & it's been discussed, we'll probably do just that. I don't require her to like everything I do, I'm just disapointed that she can't even remotely enjoy a monster flick occassionally.
Thanks for the comment!

[Wicked Lester]

My wife is a BIG Buffy fan and reads alot of the supernatural erotica stuff. Vampires , werewolves , shapeshifters etc. So she "gets" some of it. She usually watches stuff with me if it interests her. We just watched Underworld Rise of the Lycans and she enjoyed it more than I did. As long as it's not a gore fest like Land of the Dead or Hills Have Eyes remakes she usually watches. HOWEVER,it will be a cold day in hell before I can get her to watch any of the classics or 50's B stuff. " C'mon hon. Giant ants, how cool is that?" Nope,she don't get that.
She does think alot of my props and masks are pretty cool and even helped me with a paint scheme on my first painted mask.
We live in a smallish 1050 sq foot house. I get 200 for my monster stuff and other collectibles the upstairs hallway for my crime stuff. The rest of the house is hers.

[BaronLatos35]

I hear you Lester, my wife is similar. She loves shows like True Blood, Underworld, Twilight, LOTR, Harry Potter to other things like Dancing with the Stars etc.

But hell would freeze over before she sat through Bela in Dracula or any other classic pre 1980 horror movie. She always makes fun of this and that and I usually follow suit and it becomes a playful back and forth. She loves to call my obsession with Horror Hosts "your Svengoolie nonsense TV". Man, I love her!

At the end of the day, its all love and we respect each other's interests and thankfully we have 2 TV's! LOL!

[mike c]

My current ladyfriend of a year & 1/2 doesn't get it. She enjoys tame, predictable dramas & such. She won't even watch A&C Meet Frankenstein, or any harmless B&W classic with me. I don't try to change, or force anything on her either. At 50+ yrs old , she's never even seen JAWS. I thought everyone's seen JAWS! Heck, my mother's even watched it on TV once.

I have an 11" X 17" very cool House of Dark Shadows movie poster in my spare bedroom. To my girlfriend, it's a gruesome photo of "a girl w/a stake thru her heart".

Get another ladyfriend.   

Seriously though, everyone needs to decide for themselves how much 'in common' is enough. Personally I don't feel a terribly strong need for my wonderful woman to dig all the stuff I dig, but she digs most of it enough to put up with me, and sometimes fans the flames.

Others feel a need to have their partners really involved in their deepest passions, and that's fine too, but if that is the case for somebody and they're not getting that from their partner... well, get another partner.

Honestly, life is WAY too frappin' short and difficult to add to your misery by remaining tied to someone who does not let you be you, makes you feel inferior/immature, or can't at least appreciate that YOU have this passion. If the person who is supposed to love, honor, cherish, obey, disobey, all the good stuff, doesn't mind that their disregard for your passions makes you feel bad about yourself? LEAVE THEM. Life is too short.

I feel very lucky that for 15 years now, I've been with a remarkable woman who is brutally honest about not liking some of the things I like, but never puts me down for it or makes me think SHE thinks I'm beneath her or anyone else, and allows me to be just as brutally honest with her without any hurt feelings. I mean, yesterday for my birthday she gave me a huge box full of hard foam skulls with which to build more Hallowe'en figures. Need I say more?

If someone is wrong for you (not referring to anyone in particular, just a general 'you'), stop trying to fix it.

Find someone else.



Mike C.

[fmofmpls]

Not only does my wife complain about the time and money spent on monsters - she also complains about the time spent operating and enjoying this forum! You see, I get it at both ends. It's not just the movies and the toys anymore, it's the computer time too. What's a General to do?  

Which leads me to wonder - how many lonely spouses hate the UMA? There's been a marriage as a result of the UMA (Max and Jane met here), but I have to wonder if the UMA could be responsible for a divorce or two as well?  

I defer all marital member complaints to my lawyer.   

[Type3Toys]

Yup, Im in by myself here as well. All I get is "your watching that movie again" or my favorite is "I cant fall asleep with all that screaming".  I guess I kind of like it this way. I could not afford to have us both collecting monster movies and toys. I also know the sheer horror of having to endoor one of those Halmark or Lifetime flicks. I just sit there and shiver and chant "its only a movie" over and over to myself.

[monsterphile]

Not only does my wife complain about the time and money spent on monsters -

Terry,

Just remember whose wife let you buy that old 5 ft. tall Creature figure several years ago.  Deep down, she's an enabler.

Rob

[dlhenderson]

"I cant fall asleep with all that screaming". 

This thread if full of great quotes. 

[ChattyLMS]

It's not just the movies and the toys anymore, it's the computer time too.

My hubby doesn't share my hobbies and the first convention I went to he thought I was out of my mind.  He has for the most part come to terms with it.  Now to comment on the comment.  I'm the editor of the Newsletter of the doll club I belong to, and he even helps me with the Newsletter.  That's very nice.  However there's a price for that.  I have to read many of his reports or letters he writes.  He's an engineer so there are a lot of reports.  The reports are not so bad because that's our bread and butter.  But, an email of two lines to a friend or relative, that ridiculous!  I'm also a thesaurus  and also a dictionary.   

[Wicked Lester]

My wife sees me on the comp. "Whatya lookin at" Me " Monster stuff. Later same question. Me "Monster board" Later same question. Me " Monster masks"
Now when she asks that question I just say" Monster Sh%$. You should know that by now".

[Scatter]

I get the side eye fairly regularly from the lovely Mrs Scatter for all the computer time, but she loves scary movies and monster/Hollywood/classic TV stuff, which we collect.

This last season she even started watching the Steelers with me, and bought me a new jersey.

I love her.

[fibbermac]

My "Mrs." is extremely tolerant, for which I am eternally grateful. It's as though she figured out that some guys hunt, some guys fish, some guys are sports fanatics. Some guys' hobbies are frequenting Gentleman's Clubs or downloading pornography. (My wife's favorite cousin lost a husband to that last one.) So why shouldn't Frankenstein be a hobby?
But I've given up trying to have her join me in my monster obsession. Thankfully, separate hobbies aren't necessarily a relationship killer. I don't criticize her flower pots on the deck and she ignores my ever-growing DVD collection.
The biggest problem I have is finding the time to watch my movies when she isn't around. (It's costing me a lot of late-night sleep.)