My wife thinks I have a problem

[dadabigalow]

My wife thinks I have a problem. We've know each other since 8th grade, and after 28 year of marriage, you would think that she would come around to share in my obsession. But no! If it not some lifetime or Hallmark channel movie about someone dyeing of some terrible disease, or if it's not written by Nicholas Sparks then she doesn't want to invest the time.

It not like I asked her to take-up Square-dancing or Smoking Crack! (No offence to any Square-dancers or Crackheads out there)

Don't misunderstand, We are soul mates for life and I could never love anyone as much as I do her.  But she is missing out on this important aspect of my life.  She doesn't even get my "Snappy Come-backs". She came out to my Wood-Shop at 10:00 pm to tell she was going to bed. She sees me watching "Werewolf of London" and sayes

"WHAT YOUR WATCHING WOLFMAN AGAIN?"

(I just let the mis-identification of the movie go) But then she says

"I THINK YOU MUST BE CRAZY"

to which I retort.....
"CRAZY AM I, WE'LL SEE WHETHER IM CRAZY OR NOT"
Obvious response. Correct?

She just rolled her eyes and said
"GOOD-NIGHT, LOVE YA, DONT FORGET TO LOCK-UP."

But on the other-side she's never told me to 'Grow-up' or don't get our kids hooked on these old movies. (FYI, my sons are though they don't like to admit it). I do remember once, not too long ago my wife saying.....   

"If you buy one more Monster Statue or Monster Mask, Im gonna Kick you till your dead"

But I don't really think she meant it....... Ummm..... I'll get back to ya on that one, right after my next E-bay purchase.

So am I the only Member of the Army who has to deal with this type of unreasonable behavior from their spouse's. If I'm not perhaps we could start a support group.

   

[monsterphile]

Fear not, it is a rare spouse that shares the full frenzy that we work ourselves into when dealing with the monsters.  My wife likes to watch all sorts of movies, horror and SciFi included, but pretty much only something with a lot of action.  She likes to watch those depressing movies on Lifetime too. 

She doesn't collect monsters, but she does collect other stuff, especially Disney.   Oh sure, she'll shake her head from time to time when she pokes her head into my monster room, but as a collector herself, I think she "gets it" on some level.

C'est la vie...

Rob

[ChattyLMS]

Hey!
Your wife is the same as my hubby!  He likes those Lifetime movies, too!  I hate those.  Somebody always gets killed or there's a plot against them, or their children get kidnapped, or worse.  He doesn't share my hobbies either.  At first he didn't understand, now at least he's tolerant.  I don't have a workshop, so whatever work I do is in the kitchen or the basement.  If I use spray paint I alway spray it on the top of the deep freeze in the basement.  I always use newspaper but the over spray gets it.  My son likes to work with his hands too and he contributes to the colors on the freezer.  He likes the work I do, but he doesn't like the mess it involves.  Well, we're pretty much in the same boat but in reverse!  I'm the collector/hobbiest, hubby is the Lifetime movie watcher!

[Toy Ranch]

My wife has a new obsession....  game shows.  And reruns of them at that. 

I can't share in her obsession, and don't expect her to share in mine.  I think "how utterly insipid" when I see them, but figure she thinks the same way about my old monster movies, so...  

[CreepysFan]

 I guess I'm pretty lucky, Karen shares my love for monster movies, but I still have to watch how much I spend on my collecting.  Tough situation, good luck with this.  

[dlhenderson]

"If you buy one more Monster Statue or Monster Mask, Im gonna Kick you till your dead"
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Oh, that is funny, only because I can relate to it!
My wife sometimes acts as if I'm the only person on earth who likes this stuff. And she absolutely will NOT sit still for any kind of genre film. I have my own plasma set in my studio, where all my stuff is. The rest of the house is her territory. Our house was built in 1939 and I truly think that some of my classic posters would look amazing in our living room, but there is NO WAY that's ever gonna happen! Alas.
I was able to put things in perspective a few months ago with a good "come back". After a stressful day at work I settled down with a favorite film. At some point I heard her at my studio door saying something like: "You're watching THAT again? What's wrong with you?". I looked over and casually quipped: "It's comfort food". THAT she understood.

[Mitchellmania]

Both of my Ex-Wives used to say the same things, now I watch whatever, whenever  , and don't have to sneak monster models in the house!

[Dr. Jitters]

She came out to my Wood-Shop at 10:00 pm to tell she was going to bed.

I think you missed a signal there, dadabigalow.    Good luck and we're here for you!

[ramsey37]

One of the nice things about being divorced is that I don't have to listen to that sorta crap anymore. I wear what I want, eat what I want, and watch what I want
George

[tv horror]

I did notice that both of your wives knew that you had watched the movie before, so there is hope.

[Paul L]

I've only had one girlfriend that was a "fan" in the sense of the word that I am, & another that had a slight partiality to monsters & imagi-movies. Unfortunately these relationships didn't have much else going for them.

My current ladyfriend of a year & 1/2 doesn't get it. She enjoys tame, predictable dramas & such. She won't even watch A&C Meet Frankenstein, or any harmless B&W classic with me. I don't try to change, or force anything on her either. At 50+ yrs old , she's never even seen JAWS. I thought everyone's seen JAWS! Heck, my mother's even watched it on TV once.

I have an 11" X 17" very cool House of Dark Shadows movie poster in my spare bedroom. To my girlfriend, it's a gruesome photo of "a girl w/a stake thru her heart".

We have other things in common, but it bothers me too that she won't give something "monster" even a look. So I know what you're going thru.

I don't know how much to read into a "problem" like this, if I should even consider it a problem. We've recently began discussing marriage or living together. I think personal  space could be a big concern here. I welcome any comments or advice.

To her credit, she's never tried to change me, or outwardly critisized me, but "not getting" something I enjoy so much to the point of not even giving a silly movie a glance is almost as bad. Perhaps I'm too sensitive. I took some heat growing up for liking monsters & things unusual (to me it was/is just plain fun), & I haven't forgotten it. Soooo, maybe a support group would be nice.

[Scatter]

Hey!
Your wife is the same as my hubby!  He likes those Lifetime movies, too!  

EGAD  

[Creature Features]

My wife has always been very supportive of  my love of monsters. Although she herself prefers the more modern stuff (She's hooked on those "8 films to die for" that come out every year, as well as stuff like The Ruins and Quarantine)...

I can always count on some sort of Monster/Horror/Sci-Fi/Superhero type gift on Christmas, Birthdays, and Father's Day.   

[dlhenderson]

Basically, you gotta have your own space (both physically and conceptually).

[Street Worm]

Ha!
My old lady has to listen to lots of Zappa-

(& she's not a happy camper) 

She'll come around~