When do you let a girl you're dating see your collection?

[Wizard_Of_Ed]

Looking at the collection thread I thought I'd ask when do you let a girl know you have your collection? I have a hard enough time meeting girls when they find out my degree is in animation and I write and illustrate books. They see the stereotype of the unemployed guy living in his mom's basement. Letting them know I have a vast figure collection just as nearly all animators and comic book artists have would make them run even further. I assume some of you are married so when and how did you let the little woman (or man) find out about your hobby? I don't see it as a big deal but I guess "normal" people think it's weird.

[Wizard_Of_Ed]

Sorry for the typo. I have my screen set at the high pixel rate and can't always catch my typos. It should have been Girl, not gitl.

[horrorhunter]

Sorry for the typo. I have my screen set at the high pixel rate and can't always catch my typos. It should have been Girl, not gitl.

Gitl sounds more interesting. 
     Anyhoo, I think you should be up-front about what you like. How else can you find someone you are compatable with?

[Illoman]

Looking at the collection thread I thought I'd ask when do you let a girl know you have your collection? I have a hard enough time meeting girls when they find out my degree is in animation and I write and illustrate books. They see the stereotype of the unemployed guy living in his mom's basement. Letting them know I have a vast figure collection just as nearly all animators and comic book artists have would make them run even further. I assume some of you are married so when and how did you let the little woman (or man) find out about your hobby? I don't see it as a big deal but I guess "normal" people think it's weird.

From the start!! I remember my wife (then girlfriend) buying me the Kenner Alien for a Christmas gift one year!! Of course, in times of need I sold it, but still have the girl!!

[aura of foreboding]

     Gitl sounds more interesting. 

Most assuredly. 

[Haunted hearse]

From the beginning.  Would you really want to attempt to spend life with a person who not only doesn't appreciate your talents, but would be bothered by your collections?

[creaturerevenge]

From the beginning.  Would you really want to attempt to spend life with a person who not only doesn't appreciate your talents, but would be bothered by your collections?

Well said! If she can't dig it, then she aint the one! 

We're all a little crazy, and thats what makes us special (and awesome!) I've never been bothered by the way other people see me. I love collection and monsters and toys and models, and if people don't get it, then that's cool. I still enjoy it, and at the end of the day, thats what really matters. My fiance` knew nothing of collecting or classic horror and sci-fi when I met her, but she knew right from the beginning that it was what i was into. We really got to know each other over building a haunted house! Now she is just as much into it as I am (in some cases even more!) I'm not saying that you have to spend the rest of your life hunting for someone who is as into collecting as you are, but they should at least be able to appreciate what you're into!

[Street Worm]

In a way it was my wife that started my all growed up toy & comic collecting... 

[Sly Wolf]

Well, I'm 20 years old and I did hang out with some girls in past. I actually did not let them know of my collections until time is just right. Sadly some of girls that I have crush on them already have boyfriend of their own.

I still remember that I was going to ask sweetest girl to go out on a date someday, because she always treat me like I'm her special friend for months, but my mother used Facebook and told me that she already have boyfriend for few years. I was like "Oh, ... Oh well." She later found out about my collections while we're talking on Skype, she is impressed with it and we both talk about different things from my different collections, it was fun.

I have other girl who is one of my two best friends, she loves playing retro video games and watching old movies with me so much that she wants to make sure that I have enough free time to play video games and watch movies with her whatever I'm not busy. I always have mixed reactions whatever I should have her as my girlfriend or not. She's a tomboy and her dream job is working as a mail woman. So yeah, LOL. Reason why we both first met, because she founds out about my retro video game collection because her dad is a retro gamer like I'm.

My mom told me that she actually wants me (they talked behind my back) and mom feels that I'm not quite ready for her since I just want to be friends with her and I hardly play video games at all anymore now. I just want to meet other girls first before I can make up my mind on her.

I don't want any girl to love me because of my video game collection, I met some other gaming girls in college and my gosh they're so into it which I have told them that I don't play video games like I used to anymore otherwise they would be stalking me, LOL. I mean I'm in college to study art and taking on other new interests such as reading and writing, not playing video games for crying out loud!

I won't mind talking with girl who is interested in me for being a artist, same hobbies, same interests, and who am I to them. I don't want gaming girls, because they would be interested in me because I have video games and not something else.

Again I'm okay with girls who is bit interested in video games as long they're not really into it.

[Hepcat]

Sorry for the typo. I have my screen set at the high pixel rate and can't always catch my typos. It should have been Girl, not gitl.

You can edit(Modify) the words in the Subject line you know.



I wouldn't tell the girls anything. I'm always careful about letting people know about my treasures. I'd be devastated to lose anything in a break-in. Start letting girlfriends know too much and pretty soon everybody in the city knows. Girls talk.

[Sly Wolf]

I just realized that I'm a chatter box... Too much writing... Too much talking, LOL!

[BlackLagoon]

Ok, I just caught this on FB and had to log on to chime in because I've gone through this more times than I can count on both hands. I'm 35 yrs old and currently single. Before I say ANYTHING else--I love being a dork. I love everything from The Munsters to The X-Men and wouldn't trade up this hobby for the world. With all of that--I too have a pretty niced size collection and as a child of the 80's.....yes there are shelves with G.I.Joe and Transformers on them.

My last real ex--who I almost married, knew early on and it wasn't really a problem. Actually I can't ever remember her saying anything negative about it--and I don't think at that time I was "actively collecting" which may have made it easier on her. I'd pick up a Star Wars figure if we were out at Target or Comics here and there....but no she never gave me a hard time and she "learned" of my hobby in bits and pieces.

Then there were girls I had been hanging around with here and there that came over for the 1st time...I open up the door and boom! Aurora model kits, Masters Of The Universe, stacks of comics--sounds perfect!!! Unless you're a smokin' hot personal trainer lol......I can tell right away she was like "Ohhhh wow--are these new or did your dad buy them when you were a kid??". I seriously think that made her take me much less serious and that's fine because if that's how she thinks then it's obviously someone who I shouldnt be spending my time with you know??

I think this question overall has alot of grey area. At first I think "Hey this is me and she should know about it right away"....it depends on the girl. What I'm finding is a better approach is to not foam at the mouth every time a super hero movie is on tv, and to never just go on 30 min raves about the art work of James Bama and Basil Gogos........just be subtle.

When the right person comes along and I'm ready to "start a life" with them is it really that big a deal that I'm into this? If it is......she's waaaaaaaaaay too superficial for me.

[MDG]

Sorry for the typo. I have my screen set at the high pixel rate and can't always catch my typos. It should have been Girl, not gitl.

I thought the typo was "collection"

[Flower]

. Girls talk.

So do boys/men ... 

Sly Wolf .. just be yourself and if the subject of collecting comes up naturally or if you want to tell a girl/woman that you collect something, follow your gut feelings. At the end of the day, you have to be true to yourself .. you (like everyone else) will make mistakes in trust and all else, it's part of life.

Btw ~ there is nothing wrong in asking an unmarried girl/woman out (you don't know all the details of her life), the worst thing that can happen is that she'll say no.

Good luck.

[Count_Zirock]

Q: When do you let a girl you're dating see your collection?
A: When she begs me to!