My wife thinks I have a problem

[depressedlarrytalbot]

Mrs Depressedlarry has her stuff, I have mine. They overlap some. We met a weekly BLUES BROTHERS Late Show in the early 80s (a la ROCKY HORROR). We went there for 10 months of Friday nights, me in Elwood clobber.

Our mutual appreciation is compatible even if we aren't into each other's specifics right now. We overlapped more 25 years ago, but you change. But the compatibility remains, and things evolve back-and-forth. I collect UMs, DC and Marvel and some Terminator, Alien, Predator, Robocop, Godzilla, Trek. The pecking order changes over the years. Right now, UMs are back on top. I'm kinda happy for that because (i) that's where it all started for me and (ii) I'm much deeper than ever into what is essentially a very limited pool of material, than I have ever been into stuff that is far more expansive (e.g. Trek).  [Thanks UMA!]

Meanwhile, my wife has gone from Star Wars to Harry Potter ... and now she is into parrots. This too shall pass, even if the parrots don't.

I have our house somewhat, ehh, cluttered with toys while she has it full of bird feathers, seed casings and stuff. So at least I now have some comeback about mess.

Anyway my point (yes there is one ..) is that I have mates whose wives don't get it at all. They consider their hubbies immature. One is so desperate to get others on-side about this that she even tries to bond with me about it in front of him, when my place of business and I have probably been her husband's biggest supplier of the stuff (yes, I've been likened to a pusher and a pimp at times, all very jovially of course).

This man is an awesome provider, works super-hard in a very exclusive technical job for a major corporation, travels, brings home tons of bacon, huge house, very industrious on weekends and nights, very capable with all matters of home improvement, builds, renovates, outfits, ought to be a wife's dream .... everything I'm not, in fact ... yet he gets bitched about endlessly because in this huge house, where there is plenty of room and all the cards were on the table from the get-go, before the house was even built .... he has a toy den, full of stuff, and a basement store-room for stuff not yet opened.

They love each other, but it gets acrimonious at times, and I have to wonder.  

This is not to single out the wives for scorn; this is just the example I have. I call it 'false maturity syndrome'. Usually it is when one partner thinks they are more mature than the other and cannot distinguish between 'childish' and 'childlike'.

I'm proud to call myself 'childlike'. But when I see what some of the people who think me 'childish' do to other people every day .... ..well, it makes the blood to boil and the underpants to fall down around the ankles.

 

[ChattyLMS]

You all know that I also collect dolls.  I found out that my hubby is really starting to get tolerant of my hobbies.  One day we were going somewhere and there was a doll lying by the side of the road.  Obviously some little girl's dear little dolly accidently went out the window.  I asked my hubby if he would mind to turn around so I could get it.  And he turned the car around and I picked up the doll.  And he didn't roll his eyes or think that I was weird.  He was even amused when you press the doll's tummy that she laughs.  He was probably glad that I found it and didn't have to spend any money.  I was shocked!

[mjaycox]

MY wife is highly supportive. She loves my monsters. In fact she has almost all of the same interests I do. It's kinda strange. Her favorite horror film is the "Wicker Man"-- it's one the ways we figured out we're kindred souls.

She had even seen all of "The Living Dead at the Manchester Morgue" before we even met, and we have been together since we were both 20, so that is impressive. Years later when pressed on this issue, she revealed she had watched it while living in England for a summer back in the early 90s. That meant she watched it when it was still technically labeled a "Video Nasty." Naturally, my esteem for her grew immeasurably. And yet she also loves the Masterpiece Theater Classics, and once a week, we work our way through some forgotten piece of BBC video (most recently, Frank Finlay's performance in the exceptional Dennis Potter production of "Casanova"). You see, she is an English teacher by trade, and it's like I have brought the "hot librarian" of my youth home, brought her up to my treehouse and made her read all my issues of Famous Monsters-- and she didn't disapprove.

She cares about my monster friends deeply, and if ever she feels I am devoting too much time to work, she makes sure I get in touch with them. I have grown quite close to some of the friends I have made in monster collecting over the years--- and most of that attachment has been accomplished through Nancy's intervention ad insistence. I fear that if it were up to me, I would sulk in a dark room, far from the madding crowd. I think she likes how my monster community draws me out of my shell, keeps me from brooding too much.

She is very astute in this regard-- I think she realizes it's far easier to exert influence in one's sphere if you show an interest and an aptitude for it rather than merely disapproval. I am far more likely to listen to her with regard to my monster collecting because of the fact she is so much a part of it. Thus, she can prevent me from doing unreasonable things ("No Matt, you can't put in a bid higher than $1300 for that Frankenstein bank-- it is senseless." "But Nancy-- when am I gonna see it again??!!" "You've been on Ebay ten years and you have seen it twice-- by my count that makes at least 10 more times before you die.") 

And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare
As any she belied with false compare.



Beast witches,

Matt

Here's Sissy playing my "Mr Hyde" game with me. If that's not love, I don't know what is.

[Scatter]

It's so refreshing to hear all the beautiful things being said about the significant others in this thread rather than the usual griping. I'm going to go and kiss my wife passionately right now, spurred by this outpouring of mate affection.

If I'm not back in an hour..........think dirty thoughts.

[spawn54]

I hear you Lester, my wife is similar. She loves shows like True Blood, Underworld, Twilight, LOTR, Harry Potter to other things like Dancing with the Stars etc.

But hell would freeze over before she sat through Bela in Dracula or any other classic pre 1980 horror movie. She always makes fun of this and that and I usually follow suit and it becomes a playful back and forth. She loves to call my obsession with Horror Hosts "your Svengoolie nonsense TV". Man, I love her!

At the end of the day, its all love and we respect each other's interests and thankfully we have 2 TV's! LOL!

Yeah my wife doesn't get My Svengoolie nonsense TV either... 

[BaronLatos35]

Yeah my wife doesn't get My Svengoolie nonsense TV either... 

LOL! there's more of us...lol.

[Monster Bob]

My wife knows I have a problem, and I can't hold it against her!

[claudin]

I'm not married, but my boyfriend and I both love this stuff. He went to his second Monster Bash this past June and we already booked the room for 2010 right after we checked out. We even paint monster models together. lol  Everything is  awesome and the interest in monsters is the icing on the cake. Heck, on Saturday we get the curios at Ikea to display the Universal Monster toys!
We support each others habit. hee hee!

[mike c]

I'm not married, but my boyfriend and I both love this stuff. He went to his second Monster Bash this past June and we already booked the room for 2010 right after we checked out. We even paint monster models together. lol  Everything is  awesome and the interest in monsters is the icing on the cake. Heck, on Saturday we get the curios at Ikea to display the Universal Monster toys!
We support each others habit. hee hee!

Haha, nice!
My wife isn't entirely into my monster and horror hobbies but she shares my passions enough that she is a total instigator! "Honey, we can't spend x on x this year, we have to rein it in... but look at these cool figures at Amok Time!"
In-sti-ga-tor.
She 'gets' most of it though, and has her own passions which she feels as strongly as I do my own, and we absolutely indulge and support each others' madness.

I don't know if I'd completely love her being precisely as into my passions as I am; I might get claustrophobic. I think we have a very good balance.

Mike C.

[ChattyLMS]

This man is an awesome provider, works super-hard in a very exclusive technical job for a major corporation, travels, brings home tons of bacon, huge house, very industrious on weekends and nights, very capable with all matters of home improvement, builds, renovates, outfits, ought to be a wife's dream .... everything I'm not, in fact ... yet he gets bitched about endlessly because in this huge house, where there is plenty of room and all the cards were on the table from the get-go, before the house was even built .... he has a toy den, full of stuff, and a basement store-room for stuff not yet opened.

Sounds like the ice water in hell type.  We have a basement full of stuff.  I don't complain about his stuff, he doesn't complain about mine.  He just wants me to clean up my craft area.  We have an old deep freezer that we need to replace.  That's a toughie.  It's the best spot for my son and me to paint our creations.