And so the wedding plans have started

[ChattyLMS]

Let's see.  Here's the score:
Heads bitten off:
Hubby - 2
Me - 1


Animaniacs - Prom Night

[CreepysFan]

  There doesn't need to be heads bitten off, everyone can have input on the plans.  The one actually paying for it, should have MORE input and FINAL say.  Simple.

[Flower]

It's a good thing that 'Hubby' had two heads .. 

Wedding's are stressful ... good luck with your body parts and all else.

[mjaycox]

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Insert Joke Here!

[ChattyLMS]

Too funny, Flower and Mjaycox!
Uncle Creepy,
You would think so!  We don't actually have to pay anything.  But, we are paying half.  Jordan's family can't really pay anything.   Anita and Jordan can pay for it all, but I'm not sure how!  So we run across the, "You don't have to pay then."  It's "My wedding, tough cookies <sh**>."   

I keep telling her I want her to be happy about her wedding.  It's the same arguement as we had with my son's wedding.  I want to invite a couple that she doesn't want.  Same couple as Neil's wedding.  The couple is my psychologist and his wife.  I've know him since Anita was 2 months old.  That's 25 years.  If they get invited to weddings or whatevers from his patients they go.  Anita's point is, "A psychologist does not belong at a wedding.  If he's a friend he should not be your psychologist and if he's your psych. he should not be your friend".  Head formally bitten off due to the tone of her voice.   

She honestly has a good point, and I understand it.  But,  I would like he and his wife to go based on the fact that he was there for all the difficult times (including children), throughout the last 25 years.  And now we're on the other side of that.  I told her that.  Our family would have not been anywhere near as nice as it is now if I hadn't have gotten his help.  I came from a very dysfunctional family, and I carried an enormous amount of excess baggage into my adult life. 
Technically he's not a friend.  The friendship begins and ends in his office.   But what constitutes a friend?  When you start telling somebody some of your personal problems, share a few diry jokes, they feel like a friend.  He's told me personal things as illustrations of points, too, and for a few laughs.  It's not the kind of thing like "Hey, lets go for a beer."  No going out as couples or anything like that.  Still and all, I've got a special place in my heart for him.

The weirdness of the whole thing is that the wedding is a 4 1/2 drive away.  Inviting is more of a courtesy.  They most probably wouldn't come anyway.   If they did happen to come, how many times would she even see them?  With 150 to 200 guests it's highly unlikely that she will she them more than one time.     

It's my only request at this point in time.  I doubt that one controversial couple can cause her such heartache that it would cause her any serious unhappiness in he wedding.   (I did have another request, that was, could she have it in the summer?  I'm student teaching in the fall (Oct 19) and I won't be able to help her very much.   I'm not sure that I will be able to take very many days off.  Maybe two days?  Number one understandable request denied.) 

So I think when we start discussing the guest list I'm going to tell her I'm inviting them, ask her to give me an invitation, and "It will be ok, Anita, he probably won't even be there <suck it up>".

So I had to put Katie Kaboom on my post(!).    She was a Katie Kaboom when she was a teenager, now she's a Katie Kaboom Bridezilla!

Sorry to make it so long.  I guess I'm not exactly right about it, but I'm not exactly wrong about it.  Good thing I only have 2 kids!
Thanks for letting me vent!
Love you Uncle Creepy!   (P.S. - Do you want to come to a wedding this fall?  "Anita, can I invite Aunt and Uncle Creepy?)   

[missdead13]

not to be thee debbie downer.. but.
i hate weddings. . mine, my friends, my neighbors, anyone happening to have one. , . bleh.
ugh. .

good luck. :/

[CreepysFan]

  Aww wow, thanks Chatty, I'm touched by the invite.  Maybe not a good idea though.  If a Psychiatrist sets her off, imagine what effect a deranged lunatic would have. Personally, I don't think your wrong inviting who you want to the Wedding.  Good luck.

[ChattyLMS]

Missdead, too funny
Weddings aren't always pleasant even if it is your kids!

So Uncle Creepy, you are right, I can't imagine that she would believe that you are relative, even though you're my Uncle Creepy!

Well, with a psychologist there, Anita won't have to worry if I freak out!

[Fester]

Don't know why, but today's Blondie comic strip seemed apropos.\

[scott_of_smeg]

Just try to remember that you are planning for a celebration and regardless of what takes place during the ceremony and reception, the en result will be the same. Everyone will be so happy for you both.

If I could give one price of advice, do not cheap out on the photographer. A good, qualified weddin photographer will make a world of a difference.

[ChattyLMS]

Hi Uncle Fester!
That might work!  Ha ha ha!

Scott, you are definitely right on both counts.  I'll keep that in mind as the time goes by.  It'll be much better for Anita and Jordan if there isn't a lot of fuss over the little things.

As far as the photographer goes, Anita and Jordan will pick him/her out.  That's one thing hubby and I won't have to worry about.

She has her wedding gown now.  I got to help her pick it out, I really enjoyed it.  This Saturday we are going to taste food to decided about the caterer.  I'm looking forward to that, too!

Thanks, Scott!

[CreepysFan]

  This Saturday we are going to taste food to decided about the caterer.  I'm looking forward to that, too!

  The UMA's resident chef Dr. Madd would be a great choice for caterer.  Frisk him for medieval weapons though.

[ChattyLMS]

Dang, It's Tuesday and no Dr Madd!  Saturday is coming up.  Where's Dr Madd when you need him?