Author Topic: Kathy McWilliams AKA Mrs WickedLester  (Read 537 times)

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Re: Kathy McWilliams AKA Mrs WickedLester
« Reply #15 on: December 24, 2017, 04:22:00 PM »
My deepest condolences, thoughts and prayers for you WL. I am so very sorry for your loss.
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Re: Kathy McWilliams AKA Mrs WickedLester
« Reply #16 on: December 25, 2017, 07:18:16 PM »
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.  You're in my prayers.
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Re: Kathy McWilliams AKA Mrs WickedLester
« Reply #17 on: December 29, 2017, 08:08:19 PM »
So sorry to hear about such a monumental loss.  My condolences to you, Mike, and to your family.

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Re: Kathy McWilliams AKA Mrs WickedLester
« Reply #18 on: January 01, 2018, 09:45:04 PM »
My condolences
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Re: Kathy McWilliams AKA Mrs WickedLester
« Reply #19 on: January 01, 2018, 10:39:54 PM »
My sincerest condolences on your loss, Lester.

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Re: Kathy McWilliams AKA Mrs WickedLester
« Reply #20 on: January 06, 2018, 11:39:09 AM »
Hey
 Thank You for all the thoughts and prayers.  It has been VERY tough to say the least. I keep having the woulda,coulda,shoulda going thru my head. WE were at odds the last month or so bickering all the time and had I seen how sick she really was would have changed that if I could. My family keeps telling me that if someone is on a downword spiral health wise that I should not beat my self up for not seeing it on a day to day basis,which I did not. But in hindsight ,the last couple mos she changed soo much, how the f&*% did I NOT see it. Even with the fighting it was a comfort just having her in the chair next to me watching some old crime/horror movie.
She paid another couple visits,yes.the ceiling fan turned on again ,twice in 3 days.
 I know in my heart she is just checking in but DAMN I miss her SO much.
 For those of you with close family,friends or partners, DO NOT let petty crap come between you. There will be lots of regrets if you do. 
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Peace and love to all

Mike (Lester)

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Re: Kathy McWilliams AKA Mrs WickedLester
« Reply #21 on: January 07, 2018, 07:02:03 AM »
Mike, for what it's worth & what you're saying (her visits), I believe she knows how you feel & all is forgiven.
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Re: Kathy McWilliams AKA Mrs WickedLester
« Reply #22 on: January 07, 2018, 11:45:10 AM »
Mike,

I'm glad of the visits.  Looking back with 'why didn't I notice/see that' is normal, be it with a loved one or even a pet.  Being human, we tend to beat ourselves up and it's 'easy' to tell others not to do so but at the end of the day Kathy knew that you loved her and wanted what was best for her. You would've saved Kathy if you could but there are times when things are just stacked against us and our loved ones.

A good friend lost his long battle with cancer on December 6th, it's a long story but he wrote his own obit.  The last line was ...

Guilt, regret and envy are thieves of happiness.  Avoid at all costs.


Hugs ...  Susan
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Re: Kathy McWilliams AKA Mrs WickedLester
« Reply #23 on: January 08, 2018, 06:05:43 PM »
I cannot even image what you are going through. However, I would say that a marriage of 37 years, is what is most important here and not regret. I have a saying I thought of years ago, not sure I was the first one to say it, but here it is. '"Time is the only thing that tells the truth". A marriage lasting 37 years and how it is clear that you still love her is the truth and what really matters.

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Re: Kathy McWilliams AKA Mrs WickedLester
« Reply #24 on: January 09, 2018, 02:09:01 AM »
I cannot express enough the words of wisdom displayed here for Wicked Lester,  those who are young, and married, might not think about this situation too much, you are still early in life, but for those of us who are older, we may think about this situation a bit more.  As the years go flying by, many, many things are sort of taken for granted, other things just go un-noticed.  I have been there, with members of my family, having passed.  Life's very questions often arise at these times, should have, would have, could have.  For Wicked Lester, I say this, you are not alone. It is said, time heals all.